Professor dating a phd student
Like those family-oriented tales of murder and vengeance (and, yes, teen romance), academic feuds can inflict wounds on generations of scholars, including early-career graduate students.Over the past decade and change, I’ve seen all kinds of feud-oriented actions: professors who discourage students from taking courses relevant to their research because the other professor is an enemy; administrators who intervene by prohibiting warring parties from being in the same room (and thus negatively affecting students who have both professors on their dissertation committees); and lots and lots of sniping to students about how Professor So-and-So’s theoretical framework in his article is faulty because he sucks as a human being. It can give a new student an immediate sense of belonging, something that grad school doesn’t offer easily. But in the long run, this gets you nowhere, and it will probably turn you into a total asshole. Evaluate ideas based on merit, not on who’s speaking.Better advice: If you are feeling depressed or overwhelmed, contact your university’s counseling center. Instead, I received somewhat different advice from women who’d been to grad school: Only date someone in grad school if you think you will be in a long-term relationship with them.They may be more oriented toward undergraduates, but they can often help you find the right sources of help. Otherwise, you could get a “reputation” around the department. Better advice: Do not treat graduate school as a dating pool in which you are a shark and everyone else is a tasty tuna.The UCLA College of Letters and Science and the university's 11 professional schools feature renowned faculty and offer more than 300 degree programs and majors.UCLA is a national and international leader in the breadth and quality of its academic, research, health care, cultural, continuing education and athletic programs.
my list of the top (or bottom, depending on how you look at it) five worst pieces of advice you hear in grad school. Really, the list could be endless—there’s an unfortunate number of people who are spouting terrible things on this subject, all the time.
Many universities have policies prohibiting romantic relationships between professors and students. Abramson, a UCLA psychology professor who specializes in human sexuality and teaches about sex and the law, examines and challenges these policies. Is it comparable to our freedom of speech and freedom of religion, or is it something we give to institutions?
"I want people to think about what is our personal sphere of autonomy," said Abramson, whose book, "Romance in the Ivory Tower," will be published this month. "My answer is that for consenting adults, this is clearly within the sphere of our personal autonomy," he said.
On the other hand, it’s perfectly normal for people to meet in grad school and start dating—you may have similar interests, and dating a fellow doctoral student is an infinitely better option than dating a professor. Don’t take classes with Professor So-and-So because he/she is the mortal enemy of your adviser.
But, like any “office” romance, you should proceed with caution—not because you could get a “reputation,” but because you’ll have to be around this person for a long time if the flame of romance fizzles. Academia is a weird place, one in which grown people have wars of words in the tradition of the Hatfields and Mc Coys, or maybe the Capulets and Montagues.
Unfortunately, the stigma around mental illness means that many students don’t seek help. Seriously, when I first heard someone say that, I thought it was a joke. One guy said it was because there were a lot more women than men in his program. And a third fellow said it was because people work on similar projects and automatically have common interests.